War of Words
Choosing our Words
Reading Ephesians 5:11-32 (especially verses 15,25,29-32)
Two major lessons that stood out from this book:
- How our words can hurt or bless (be means of grace).
- How what is in our heart influences what we say. When God is ruling in our hearts we win the war of words.
And supplementary to these how the control of our tongues is an accurate spiritual gauge of our sanctification (James 3:2).
When in conversation in fellowship or witness we always need to ask for wisdom (James 1:5) believing God will answer and then need to ask ourselves (whenever possible and we have time):
- What truths of Scripture apply here?
- What does God want to reveal about himself?
- What does God want to show this person about themselves or others (perhaps knock a few more bricks off their wall of self-deception)?
- What is God calling this person to do?
- How do I get this person to understand?
Things not to do (in all circumstances): Vent rage instead of exercising self-control, clam up or hold back, manifest self-love and be manipulating others to meet our personal desires.
Wholesome talk is:
Other-centred (for their benefit).
From a heart that loves God and one’s neighbour (not our will/desires)
Considers who the person is.
Considers what their need is e.g. confession, repentance.
Ask open-ended questions that enable them to examine the situation, their motives and behaviour and see themselves in the mirror of God’s word.
Forgives when called to and circumstances dictate.
Grounded on the “one another” commands and applicable promises of God e.g. Luke 21:15, II Cor.9:8.
Next Study (DV) Sat. January 20th 2018 to consider Acts chapter 1:1-8 using Hoeksema’s BS guide (£5 at CPRC).