Respectable Sins Lesson 9 Chapters 20-21(including review)

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Scheduled Sat. Jan 30th (DV) 

Worldliness etc.

1.How would you define worldliness?


2. Why is it sinful and dangerous?


3. What major areas are the main ones of compromise? 


4. How would you define an idol (in today’s society)?


5. What is the antidote to worldliness? 


6. On what two great theological foundational truths does our progressive sanctification rest?


7. Review-can you remember the difference between ungodliness and unrighteousness. 


8. What forms does pride take?


What is the only fact we can boast about?


9. What are ways we can counteract selfishness in our lives?



10. What kind of judgment does scripture condemn and what kind does it commend?


11. What is unique in the Christian faith compared to other false religions and cults? (in terms of sanctification).




Respectable Sins Lesson 8 answers

Respectable Sins     Study 8  (answers)


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  1. Solomon’s sin of multiplying wives and concubines, explicitly forbidden in Deuteronomy 17:17 led to disastrous and serious consequences for God’s people. First the kingdom was divided and the Northern Kingdom apostatised into idolatry under Jeroboam, this led to multiplied deaths, captivity and dispersion for those in the north and ultimately a similar fate to Judah except God preserved a remnant who returned. Idolatry got into Solomon’s heart and then into the peoples although we believe he repented in his old age as the last chapter of Ecclesiastes points.
  2. The verses teach that the FRUIT (note singular) of the Spirit is a totality of godliness that because of the illustration takes time to form as a tree ages (and as fruit takes time to ripen) and trees bear different amounts of fruit. Fruit trees take careful cultivation and the right conditions (a true church). The need for temperance is emphasized for the older men (note much of paedophilia, pornography and perversion is among older men). Solomon clearly indulged himself.
  3. The difference between will-power and Christian self-control is the source and motive of the power. Unregenerate will-power has a selfish motive and does not address the inside thought life (the whited walls or sepulchres that were the Pharisees). Often highly disciplined men like athletes have grave weaknesses and sin—for example they leave their wives and commit adultery. Christian self-control has God’s grace and the Spirit as its source and the word as its standard, affects the thoughts as well as deeds and seeks to glorify God out of thankfulness.
  4. Our battle is against fleshly lusts (I John 2:15-16). The lust of the flesh (overeating, sexual lust and sin, drunkenness, binge drinking and alcoholism), the lust of the eyes (covetousness, envy, jealousy, love of money) and the pride of life (unbridled anger, impatience, ambition and desire for fame).It is true that failure in one area leads to failure in more e.g. King David. The consequences of these sins are obesity, diabetes, abortions, unwanted children, rape, addiction to porn, promiscuity/fornication, adultery, sexually-transmitted diseases, liver disease, violence, injury and murder, gambling and bankruptcy, expletives and blasphemy.
  5. The means of grace to help us exercise self-control are the Scriptures (Psalm 119:9-11), prayer, Christian fellowship, godly marriage. We may also have to avoid certain people or places. The great need for a true church and Christian fellowship flies in the face of the individualism and the inordinate ambition of our society because we belong to each other, exist to minster to and edify each other and are called to submit to, serve and love others. Loving our fellow believer manifests God to them (I John 4:12).
  6. Envy and jealousy are the fruit of a reprobate mind. Envy is fretting at what another person has or is able to do and wanting it. Jealousy is annoyance that someone else is usurping your place or being elevated above you or taking what is yours.
  7. Competitiveness is not per-se sinful. Doing your best is personal and can be devotional and acceptable to God but being driven by envy, jealousy and pride or the desire to impress is sinful. Often the reaction to defeat exposes the true motive. Good work(s) may engender jealousy, envy, cruelty and even murder. There are MANY Biblical examples e.g. Cain, Isaac (Gen.26:14), Joseph’s brothers, Rachel and Leah, Saul, Haman. The verses quoted can be summarised in wholeheartedness, discipline and diligence.
  8. Three Scriptural facts need to be remembered when we are tempted to envy or jealousy:

1) God’s sovereignty. 2) A sober estimate of ourselves and undoubted gifts. 3) Our place in God’s     church for the common good.

9. God is jealous of rivals (idolatry) and is jealous of his people’s devotion and will take vengeance on those who persecute them. Jealousy causing fruit is seen among the Jews beholding Gentile believers (Rom.10:19 and 11:11).

10. Success in Christian ministry or any pursuit in life can tempt others to envy. Godliness can also do it. It is sinful because we ought to rejoice with those who rejoice and be thankful for signs of Christian growth or success in others because it is all to the glory of God.

Respectable Sins Study 7 (Answers)

CPRC Men’s Bible Study

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Study  7

Chapters 17 and 19

Judgmentalism and sins of the tongue

First of all regarding Bridges comments on worship we noted he failed to address the Regulative Principle when it comes to the content and means of worship (p142). He does not seem to understand the meaning in context of Matthew 7:1-5 which is about hypocritical judging (p144). His definition of one aspect of slander (p161) we thought very good.

  1. People generally quote Matthew 7:1 as it’s one of the few Bible verses they know and they do it when they feel judged or genuinely believe are being judged wrongfully. They think this verse prohibits all judging when in fact it was levelled particularly at the Pharisees who were judging Christ and others hypocritically and wrongly.
  2. We judge righteous judgment according to the standard of Scripture and the Creeds. We judge all that the Bible condemns. The Pharisees’ thoughts and actions were out of hypocrisy, hatred and wishing Christ’s destruction.
  3. We should judge sin in society, serious sin in family, friends and brethren and wisely, when appropriate sin in unbelievers. We must judge all teaching we hear preached or we read in written form.
  4. If we fail in this area false teaching and serious sin will enter our churches and divide and destroy them. This is why the believer, the consistory, the classis and the synod all have their place in church discipline.
  5. Personally we apply Matt.18 when sinned against and James 5:19-20 when we observe serious or public sin. If personal exhortation fails we take it to the consistory.
  6. Judgmentalism is based on pride and self-righteousness. It is externalism and denies human depravity. It seeks to exalt self in the eyes of others or God and issues in repeated criticism of things that are indifferent (adiaphora of Romans 14).
  7. Applying the NT exhortations regarding speech we will avoid blasphemy, gossip, slander, putting people down by name-calling, expletives and questionable jokes.

John Gill on Eph.5:4,”Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting”
The former of these may include all filthy gestures and behaviour, every indecent habit and attire, and all actions which have a tendency to excite lust; and also all impure words, these discover an impure heart, and are the means of corrupting men’s minds and manners; filthy speaking, is a verbal commission of the things that are spoken of; and it may include all impure songs and books, and the reading or hearing of them; this is what the Jews call (hp lwbn) , “filthiness of the mouth”, obscene words; which they say they do not use on feast days, as the Gentiles do F9: “foolish talking” does not so much design every imprudent thing that is said, as that which is wicked, corrupt, unsavoury, light, vain, idle, and unprofitable; and takes in all fabulous stories, and mimicking of fools in words and gestures: and “jesting”, when it is with wantonness, and excites unto it, and is inconsistent with truth, and when the Scriptures are abused by it, and not our neighbour’s edification, but hurt, is promoted by it, ought not to be used:

which are not convenient;
are disagreeable to the will of God, and unsuitable to the characters of the saints, and are very unbecoming them to practise:

Finally Gill on Matthew 5:22, ”

But I say unto you whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause, shall be in
danger of judgment.
By “brother” is meant, in a large sense, any man, of whatsoever country or nation: for we are to be angry with no man; that is, as is rightly added,

without a cause:
for otherwise there is an anger which is not sinful, is in God, in Christ, in the holy angels; and is commendable in the people of God, when it arises from a true zeal for religion, the glory of God, and the interest of Christ; and is kindled against sin, their own, or others, all manner of vice, false doctrine, and false worship: but it is causeless anger which is here condemned by Christ, as a breach of the law, “thou shalt not kill”; and such persons are

in danger of judgment;
not of any of the courts of judicature among the Jews, but of the judgment of God, as in the preceding “verse”, it being distinguished from the sanhedrim, or council, in the next clause.

And whosoever shall say to his brother Raca, shall be in danger
of the council,
or “sanhedrim”. The word Raca is expressive of indignation and contempt; it was used as a term of reproach. The word signifies “empty” and “vain”, and denotes a worthless, empty headed man; a man of no brains; a foolish, witless, fellow:

but whosoever shall say thou fool, shall be danger of hell fire.
The word “fool” does not signify a man of weak parts, one that is very ignorant in things natural; this the word Raca imports; but a wicked reprobate man; in which sense Solomon often uses the word. There is a manifest gradation in the text from causeless anger in the breast, or reproachful words; and from thence to a censorious judging of a man’s spiritual and eternal estate, which is what is here condemned. “Thou fool”, is, thou wicked man, thou ungodly wretch, thou graceless creature, whose portion will be eternal damnation. Calling a man by such names was not allowed of by the Jews themselves (yet they attributed Jesus’ miracles to Beelzebub!-JK).


Respectable Sins Study 8

CPRC   Men’s Bible Study    Respectable Sins   Study 8      Chapters 13 and 18 

    Jan 9th 2016(DV)

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Lack of Self Control, Envy and Jealousy

Key Verses Prov.25:28, Gal.5:19-21, I Peter 2:11.

Self-control is one of the fruit of the Spirit, it is the opposite of self-indulgence. It is moderation in all things.

  1. Recall how Solomon’s self-indulgence had serious consequences from I Kings 11:1-6, 29-33.

2. What do these verses teach about self-control.


Titus 2:2,5-6


II Tim.3:1-3

3. What is the difference between will-power and Christian self -control? (Titus 2:11-12)


What does this mean to you personally?

4. What is the battle against? (I Peter 2:11)


In what areas in people’s lives do they commonly fail in lack of self-control?





What are your weaknesses?


Is it true we cannot pick and choose in which areas to exercise self-control? (i.e. failure in one area leads to failure in more)

5. What means of grace help us manifest self-control?


Why is this important in our individualistic, goal-orientated culture?


6. What points does Paul make about envy and jealousy:


I Cor.13:4


7. Note from these verses what tempts people to envy and jealousy.

Acts 5:12-17, 13:44-45

I Sam.18:6-9

Gen.4:4-8, 37:4-11, 18-20

Esther 5:9-13

More examples?

Why sinful?


What’s the difference between envy and jealousy?


8. Is competitiveness sinful?


9. What difference is there between doing your best and being driven by envy and jealousy?


Check these verses on doing your best: Col.3:23, I Cor.9:24-27, II Tim.2:15


And these on envy and jealousy: Eccles 4:4, Song of songs 8:6, James 3:16.


10. What three facts, based on Scripture, ought we to remember when tempted to envy or jealousy? (I Sam.2:7, Rom.12:5, I Cor.12, Eph.5:21, I Cor.4:6-7)



11. Explore God’s jealousy and good jealousy.

Exodus 20:5

Psalm 78:58


I Cor.10:21-22





Respectable Sins (Study 6) Answers and Study 7

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Respectable   Sins

Study   6 (Chapters 14-16)

Impatience, Irritability, Anger.

Reading Eph.4:24-32

  1. Impatience is not always sinful if it is directed towards our own sinfulness and slow progress or growth in the Christian life.
  2. Impatience often is accompanied by frustration and anger. When we are tempted to be or are getting impatient we should try to acknowledge God’s sovereignty, after all he governs all things, and ask his help. Remember he is not soon angry (Psalm 145:8), an elder is to be one who is not soon angry (Titus 1:7) and LOVE is patient (Eccles. 7:9, I Cor. 13:4).
  3. We believe our wills being crossed lie at the root of irritability.
  4. Anger is often expressed in our homes and family when we bicker or attempt to belittle or disparage someone we love.
  5. Righteous anger (God’s and Christ’s) is directed against sin and sinful attitudes e.g. all idolatry in the Old Testament (Deut. 29:20 c.f. Paul in Athens Acts 17:16, Psalm 7:11), in chastening his people (Psalm 74:1, Heb.12:6-7) even David against himself when confronted by Nathan, followed by repentance. Christ expressed righteous anger when he saw the unmerciful, legalistic attitude of the Pharisees as he was about to cure the man with the withered hand (Luke 3:1-6) and likewise when he cleansed the temple of corrupting merchants. Contrariwise unrighteous anger was seen in Cain who was jealous and self-righteous, Jonah who pitied only himself when the gourd withered (Jonah 4:4) and Simeon and Judah who slew the men of Shechem (Gen.49:7).
  6. If people make us angry we must ask ourselves whether their action is firstly deliberate and whether it is objectively wrong or sinful, and not trivial, and if it is, to reason with them and admonish them. It may be right to just ignore the insult. Remember a soft answer turns away wrath (don’t retaliate). Remember Christ did not revile (I Peter 2:24).
  7. The real causes of our impatience, irritability and anger are usually our own pride (we are made to look bad) or our selfish will (we cannot get our own way).
  8. We ought to put other’s desires first and fight to kill this sinful attitude.


Respectable   Sins   study 7

Chapters (17 and 19)

Judgmentalism and the sins of the tongue                Scheduled  Dec.19th 8pm


Please read the booklet “Judging” by Rev. Doug Kuiper which is fundamental to this topic!

Notes from it: This thinking that we may not judge the actions and beliefs of others is the spirit of the age. It is also wrong. In an attempt to counter this way of thinking, the Evangelism Society of Byron Center Protestant Reformed Church publishes this pamphlet, with the desire that God be glorified and His saints encouraged to judge properly. Our prayer for the reader is that of Paul for the Philippians: “that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; that ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offense until the day of Christ; being filled with the fruits of righteousness, which are by Jesus Christ, unto the glory and praise of God” (Philippians 1:9-11).

Because we do not know the hearts of others, we must not judge secret motives (I Cor. 4:5). God will judge these.

We are also forbidden to judge others in things indifferent (Rom. 14).

One aspect of the work of a king is to judge, both within and without his kingdom. Within, he judges whether or not his subjects have obeyed his laws. Without, he judges (discerns) who is the enemy, and fights the enemy. So the Christian, as king, judges sin within himself as well as outside himself to be sin, and fights against sin and Satan.

What incentive do we have to judge?

The chief incentive is our love for God. In love for Him we must defend His Word and law. To fail to judge sin is to condone sin. But God does not condone sin; rather, He hates it! To condone abortion, homosexuality, and false teaching is to deny the Word of God and show hatred for God Himself.

Second, and related to the first, is the fact that we will stand in judgment. God will judge us according to our works, whether they be good or evil. To judge evil to be good in this life will surely bring upon us His judgment of condemnation and everlasting destruction. To judge evil to be evil will bring upon us His judgment of innocence and everlasting life—not because we have earned it by our good judgment, but because our good judgment is evidence that His Spirit works in us all the blessings of salvation, one of which is the privilege of testifying to the truth.

Third, we are motivated to judge by our desire for the salvation of our neighbour. We desire his repentance! We desire his submission to the will of God! We desire his speaking the truth as God revealed it! So we judge his sin as sin that he might repent. Paul instructs us regarding this, when he says that the goal which the Corinthians must desire in excluding the fornicator from their fellowship is the salvation of his spirit in the day of Christ (I Cor. 5:5).

  1. Why do so many quote Matthew 7:1 wrongly?


2. How do we apply John 7:24?


3. What should we judge?



4. What happens if we and the church does not do this?


5. How do we Biblically judge in our fellowship with other believers? (Rom.1:24-32, Gal.5:19-21, II Tim.3:1-5, Matthew 18, James 5:20)

6. So what is judgmentalism? (think legalism).


7. What was Paul’s position concerning the personal convictions in Romans 14?


8. How do we apply Eph.4:29?


  1. What are some of the sins of the tongue and how do we guard against them?

Respectable Sins (Study 6)

Respectable Sins   Study 6   November 28th 8pm (DV)

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Chapters 14-16

Impatience, Irritability and Anger

  1. Is impatience always sinful?
  2. What ought we to do when tempted to be impatient?
  3. What lies at the root of irritability?
  4. How has anger permeated our homes?
  5. Contrast righteous anger (with examples) with sinful anger.
  6. How should we respond to people whose words or actions make us angry?
  7. What are often the real causes of our impatience, irritability and anger?
  8. What can we do about them?
  9. Have you any unresolved resentment, bitterness or grudges needing dealt with?
  10. Recently how have impatience and anger surfaced in your life.

Respectable Sins (Study 5) Answers

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Chapters 11-12

Pride and Selfishness

Reading Philippians 2:3-11 which shows Christ as the supreme example of humility and selflessness.

  1. God hates pride.
  2. Proof is in the Scriptures quoted.
  3. Examples of pride in Scripture: Satan, Pharaoh, Absalom, Nebuchadnezzar, Haman.
  4. God hates pride because it is an exalting of self and independency and is the opposite of glorifying him (Romans 3:23), thus stealing his glory (Isaiah 48:11).
  5. Pride takes the form of glorying in: achievement sport, business (riches), children, spiritual knowledge, social or church status, self-righteousness (Pharisee and all false religion).
  6. Believers can boast only in knowing God (Jer. 9) and in the cross (Paul).
  7. We thought that contempt of gross sinners might prevent effective witness as trust needs to be gained to share the truth but we must always remember that but for grace we are the same and the antithesis precludes real friendship with unbelievers.
  8. Good (Reformed) doctrine can puff up and it is always a mistake to think we can change people.
  9. Anything we are or achieve should be cause for thanksgiving, acknowledging God (I Sam.2:7, Psalm 75:6-7, I Cor.15:10) and rejoicing with others’ achievements.
  10. Seeking recognition is countered by: the fact all our springs (standing) is in Christ, we are stewards of everything, we are actually unprofitable servants and God must be given the glory.
  11. Sinful independence was manifested in the fall of man and manifests in boasting and planning without reference to God (James 4:13-16, Prov.3:5-6, John 15:5), resisting authority especially God’s, being unteachable, forgetting to pray!
  12. Selfishness is manifest in always wanting our own way, always speaking about ourselves, hoarding our time and money, not being hospitable, inviting others or sharing what we have and about ourselves
  13. We can become more selfless by praying for others, going out to them in asking them things and listening to them and looking out for their needs.
  14. We should share our time, our home, our money, our spiritual blessings and our spiritual gifts (hospitality, prayer, letters, books, blogs, fellowship).



Respectable Sins (Study 5) Questions

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Respectable Sins                                Scheduled Sat. Oct 31st 8pm (DV)

Chapters 11 and 12

Pride and Selfishness


  1. What is God’s attitude to pride?



  1. Proof? (Prov.16:5, 21:4, James 4:6, I Peter.5:5, Proverbs 15:25).



  1. Examples in Scripture?


  1. Why is this God’s attitude?


  1. What forms of pride can you think of?


  1. What can we boast about? (Jer. 9)


  1. Do you think the pride of moral superiority and contempt of crass sinners prevents effective witness?


  1. What is the danger concerning right doctrine?




  1. What should our attitude be to achievement, ours, and others? (I Cor.4:7, Romans 12:15).



  1. What biblical principles counter the sinful desire for recognition?



  1. How does sinful independence manifest itself? What Bible verses counter this?




  1. What are some of the ways we manifest selfishness? (conversations, activities, thoughts).



  1. How can this be counteracted? (Phil.2:3, I Cor.13:4-5).


  1. What precious things should we share?




Respectable Sins (Study 4) Answers

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Chapters 8 and 9

Anxiety, frustration and discontentment

  1. Anxiety we defined as worry or undue concern about everyday needs or relationships that disturb your peace and contentment and show distrust of God.

Frustration is exasperation or desperation or annoyance that something has not gone the way I want it and I have been hindered. An everyday example would be road rage while driving.

Discontentment is feeling you have been deprived of something or are stuck in adverse circumstances that are not changing, or that you are missing out on something, it may be something unnecessary and you may be rich!


  1. These sins can lead to resentment, envy, hatred, covetousness, stealing, impulsive or lustful actions, anger and violence e.g. David and Bathsheba, Jonah’s complaint, Moses striking the rock.

3. Christ commands us not to be anxious but to make serving him our priority.


4. We do this by:

Praying (Psalm 62:8, Phil.4:6-7) and seeking his grace.

Know the Scriptures and believe his promises.

Using all you are and have to serve your church, fellow believers and in witness.

Struggling daily for righteousness and battling these sins.



  1. Psalm 139:16 assures us that God has planned all our days with purpose (written in the midst of persecution!)

6. Discontentment is not sinful if it concerns injustice and evil in the world, our own sins and lack of spiritual growth.


  1. In difficulties and when tempted to sin in these ways we need to remember God’s sovereignty, wisdom, goodness and love. (Paul’s thorn!)


  1. God may reveal that he is chastising us but also never reveal reasons for affliction in this life (e.g. Job).


  1. I Tim.6:6 written in the context of employment and false teachers who are mercenary, ungodly, malcontents teaches us that godliness and contentment (acceptance of our lot), which are closely linked, are blessings.

Respectable Sins (Study 4) Questions

Scheduled for Oct 10th 2015 (DV)

Chapters 8 and 9

Anxiety, frustration and discontentment.

Read I Peter 5: 6-7 and Phil.4:6-7.

1.Define anxiety, frustration and discontentment.





 2. What other sins can they lead to?



 3. How does Jesus say we should respond to anxiety (Matt.6:25-34)? 


 4. Practically how do we do this?



 5. What comfort in frustration do we get from Psalm 139:16?



 6. When is discontentment not sinful?


 7. What attributes of God and his ultimate purposes must we remember in difficulties?


 8. Might God never reveal the reasons for difficulties in our lives? 


9. Can you share a situation when tempted to anxiety or despair, acceptance of God’s will led to contentment?


 10. Check I Timothy 6:6 in context and describe what it teaches.