Remarriage after divorce while the divorced spouse is still alive is lawlessness against the will of God-the God who from the very beginning instituted marriage as a bond between one man and one woman for life (see and compare Gen.2:18-25; Jer. 3:1-14, Matt.5:32; 19:3-12; Mark 10:2-12; Luke 16:18; Rom.7:1-4; 1 Cor.7; Eph. 5:22-33). Such remarriage is lawlessness against the very vows that were made before God, family and friends when a man and women promised each other unconditionally, “Until death do us part.” It is lawlessness that ruins the possibility of reconciliation between estranged husband and wife. It is a stumbling block before children in which they have two or three sets of parents-for after the divorce the “innocent” party is allowed to remarry and often the “guilty” party too.

Slightly adapted from “Keeping the Sword Drawn” by Brian Huizinga, a speech given at Southwest Protestant Reformed Church.


Book Alert: “Handle with Care!” – Dr. J. Kennedy



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Handle-with-care-kennedyA few months ago I was made aware of a new book produced by Dr. Julian Kennedy and today I want to notify you of it and encourage you to make use of it – especially our young people and parents of young people.

The book is Handle with Care! A Biblical and Reformed Guide to Sexuality for Young People(Wipf & Stock, 2017; paper & epub, 114 pp.).

You will find this summary of the book at the publisher’s site:

God’s good gift of sexuality has been corrupted since the fall of man into sin so that man in his depravity is not able to use it for God’s glory and for his own good. Sex between unmarried (fornication), adultery, including divorce and remarriage, and homosexuality are accepted as normal in modern society and young people, even Christian young people, are being influenced by this Satanic lie that “if…

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Handle with Care

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Unbreakable bond of Marriage



The Westminster Confession teaches that divorce is sanctioned for adultery and even desertion. By divorce it means the end of the marriage. hence it also allows for remarriage of the “innocent party”. It is manifestly wrong!

“Sexual unfaithfulness or desertion breaks the bond of marriage between two married persons (WCF). They usually think something like, If my spouse leaves me and goes for a new life with another, what connection, what bond has (s)he with me any longer? To this the answer of God in His Word is simpler than one may expect, Why do you think sexual unfaithfulness or desertion “breaks” the bond between two spouses? It simply doesn’t! This is so because, according to Scripture, there is only ONE thing that in God’s eyes breaks the bond between man and his wife, and that is death, physical death of one of the two. This is the perspicuous testimony of God in His Word (Rom. 7:2; I Cor. 7:39). Unfaithfulness, as serious and grievous as it may be, only violates, corrupts, adulterates the intimate bond God has created between husband and wife, but it does not, and can never, break it. Even less does desertion or anything else. Before God, who created that bond (Gen. 2; Matt. 19), a man and his wife are “one flesh,” and will remain such until the death of one the constituent parts of this “one flesh.” Just as in the true marriage between God and His bride, the church, her adulteries cannot and do not break their bond, so that the true elect church is rejected forever from the presence of the Lord (Eze. 16), God has conceived and made human marriage in such a way that when He does unite two in the bond of one flesh, He does so for life! And He calls them to see and believe this and live accordingly!(God does speak of divorcing Israel but in the next breath he still states he is married to her! (Jeremiah 3:8-14). This fits with divorce being a putting away from bed and board NOT the dissolving of the marriage bond!-JK)

God hates divorce. Matthew 19;9 is only teaching the ground for divorce NOT the ground for remarriage. We cannot, and should not, ground any belief in divorce and remarriage on Old Testament Mosaic law which was given to unbelieving hard-hearted Israel but rather what “I say to you” i.e. Christ’s teaching.


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Practical Christian Love

Christian love

Christian Marriage ought to be the prime example of Christian love.

I find so many writers don’t really define what love is. If we want to exhort people to love we need to clarify just how they do that. The qualities of it are all in I Corinthians chapter 13, but what I have grasped over the years are these characteristics:
1. Love is outgoing, away from self to others in all situations. It is looking not on one’s own things/concerns but that of others (Phil.2:3,4-vital in conversation and fellowship).
2. Love serves others and takes the lower station if need be to help practically. Like Paul gathered sticks in Malta, Christ washed disciples feet. It is sacrificial of time and energy and money. Christ so loved that he came down to the lowest depths (Phil.2:5-9).
3. Love wants the best for the other and wants to bless them. That may mean a rebuke but is often encouragement from Scripture or experience. It builds up/edifies.
4. Love aims at God’s glory not self-glory.
5. Love is lifelong.

I hope this is a help and practical.


British Reformed Fellowship Conference 2018


This will undoubtedly be one of the highlights of 2018 if you can make it!

British Reformed Fellowship (BRF) Conference 2018: The Reformed (Christian) Family—According to the Word of God
21-28 July, 2018 at Hebron Hall, Cardiff, Wales
Six Main Conference Addresses:
1. The Divine Origin of the Family (Rev. A. Lanning)
2. The Authoritative Content of the Gospel (Prof. D. Engelsma)
3. The God-Fearing Man and His Virtuous Wife (Rev. A. Lanning)
4. The Reformed (Christian) Family: Parents and Children (Prof. D. Engelsma)
5. It Is Good to Be Single (Rev. A. Lanning)
6. Unbiblical Divorce and Adulterous Remarriage: A Scandal (Prof. D. Engelsma)
Saturday evening introductory speech: Rev. M. McGeown
Sunday services: AM: Rev. A. Lanning & PM: Rev. A. Stewart
Special lecture: Spousal Abuse in the Christian Community (Prof. D. Engelsma)

2018 Wales, topic: The Family

Where: Hebron Hall, Cardiff, Wales When: 21-28 July, 2018 What: The exact title is yet to be decided, but the topic will be the family Who: The main speakers will be Prof. David J. Engelsma and Rev. Andy Lanning More info to come!

Spousal abuse.

Two important speeches plus questions and answers.


Does divorce end a marriage?

The Westminster Confession of Presbyterian churches says it does:

Chapter VII

5. Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.

6. Although the corruption of man be such as is apt to study arguments, unduly to put asunder those whom God hath joined together in marriage; yet nothing but adultery, or such willful desertion as can no way be remedied by the Church or civil magistrate, is cause sufficient of dissolving the bond of marriage; wherein a public and orderly course of proceeding is to be observed; and the persons concerned in it, not left to their own wills and discretion in their own case.

What does the word of God say about this?

Firstly, “What God has joined let not man put asunder.” (Matt.19:6). The fact is man cannot put marriage asunder only God can by the death of a spouse:

For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.” (Rom.7:2,3).

Divorce is the lawful separation of a couple only as a last resort after proven adultery (desertion is not a scriptural ground!).  Our legal system and the population as a whole take this divorce as being the annulment of the marriage and allowing the freedom to remarry but is this Biblical?

Biblical divorce is separation of bed and board NOT the end of the marriage. God divorced Israel but he plainly stated he was still married to her! ” And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.Turn, O backsliding children, saith the Lord; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion:” (Jeremiah 3:8, 14). Hence to divorce and remarry for ANY REASON is adultery just as Jesus and Paul state in Matthew 5:31,32, 19:9 and I Cor.7:39. Furthermore unrepentant adulterers (i.e.those on second marriages while first spouse still lives) will be barred from heaven (I Cor.6:9).



Two worldviews

Biblical truth versus the World.

The world lies under Satan (I John 5:19) it is the whole system of godless humanism, communism and liberal left wing thinking that is opposed to Christ and the gospel. Increasingly it is making inroads into established churches who apostatize and become synagogues of Satan.

This is the ANTITHESIS.


Reformed/Biblical worldview The world’s worldview
God is sovereign/Calvinism Man is sovereign/Arminianism
God rules providence Deism, the world runs itself
God created all things Evolution is the cause
God created family Dispense with family-live in sin, single parents, divorce, porn, perversions including homosexuality
God made male and female Transgenderism
God says life is sacred, thou shalt not kill Rampant abortion- the murder of unborn children


The world’s system is set to takeover ultimately under Antichrist when the Christian church will be a beleaguered remnant UNTIL Christ the true King and Lord returns to bring in everlasting justice and righteousness.

Thanks to Rev. Angus Stewart for basic idea for this.

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