Second marriages

Malachi warns people that if they are unrepentant, divorced and remarried their worship is unacceptable to God.

 And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out (the tears of the abandoned spouse and children-JK), insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant (Malachi 2;13,14). Futhermore marrying for a second time while the first spouse lives is adultery (Matthew 5:31, Romans 7:2,3) and adulterers shall not inherit the kingdom of God (I Cor.6:9). How many friends, even among professing Christians do you know in this position?


Royal adultery


In case, as a Christian, you are getting swept along by the royal wedding euphoria surrounding Harry and Meghan please be aware that this couple, along with Charles and Camilla and Ann and Timothy are, or will be participants in on-going adultery which bars them from the kingdom of heaven. “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterersnor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,” (I Cor.6:9). What is an adulterer? Among other things it is someone married to another who has divorced and whose first spouse still lives (and so is still married in God’s eyes).  “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.” (Romans 7:3). “But I say unto you,  whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” (Matthew 5:32). The word of God is clear, even though the law of the land allows divorce and remarriage, in God’s eyes only death ends the marriage bond.

Divorced are still married in God’s eyes!

The apostle Paul ‘does not put in the category of the single the divorced person. The divorced are not single. They are married but divorced. This is the teaching of the words “the wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth: but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will” (I Cor.7:39). The apostle says that she is not single, though she is divorced, as long as her husband lives. The divorced are not single, but their state is a special form of the married state. Their marriage bonds are not broken, and they are called to be eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. ‘ This is Christ’s teaching when he says,”What God has joined let not man put asunder” and the Biblical teaching on the indissolubility of the marriage bond (till death do us part). Divorce is separation from bed and board NOT the annulment of marriage! Those divorced persons and those whom they marry are living in continual adultery if their first spouse still  lives and will be excluded from the kingdom of heaven-JK

From “Walking in the way of love” by Nathan Langerak

Why men must lead in church and home.

Excellent message by Rev. J. Mathani of Cornerstone PR church on Genesis 2/3 and I Tim.2:11-15.

Biblical masculinity mandates that man is the primary leader/worker and the woman/wife the help.

The first fall, the fall of marriages and the fall of churches took/takes place when men fail to lead!

God’s command/instruction was first to Adam so he would then explain to her the truths and lead her in applying God’s word to every aspect of life. Man being made first mandates male leadership and the woman to follow. She was made for him. She was deceived while Adam looked on, and failed to intervene(Gen.3:6). Men are to lead in dating, marriage and sex in marriage.He should have led her away from sinning. Adam was condemned because he listened to Eve instead of God. 

The manner of leading is first to submit to God’s word then be able to share it and Biblical principles derived from it. He ought to have said it is not good to eat it. Lovingly lead like Christ.

Rev. Jonathan Mathani

Sermon 11th March 2018


Remarriage after divorce while the divorced spouse is still alive is lawlessness against the will of God-the God who from the very beginning instituted marriage as a bond between one man and one woman for life (see and compare Gen.2:18-25; Jer. 3:1-14, Matt.5:32; 19:3-12; Mark 10:2-12; Luke 16:18; Rom.7:1-4; 1 Cor.7; Eph. 5:22-33). Such remarriage is lawlessness against the very vows that were made before God, family and friends when a man and women promised each other unconditionally, “Until death do us part.” It is lawlessness that ruins the possibility of reconciliation between estranged husband and wife. It is a stumbling block before children in which they have two or three sets of parents-for after the divorce the “innocent” party is allowed to remarry and often the “guilty” party too.

Slightly adapted from “Keeping the Sword Drawn” by Brian Huizinga, a speech given at Southwest Protestant Reformed Church.

Book Alert: “Handle with Care!” – Dr. J. Kennedy



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Handle-with-care-kennedyA few months ago I was made aware of a new book produced by Dr. Julian Kennedy and today I want to notify you of it and encourage you to make use of it – especially our young people and parents of young people.

The book is Handle with Care! A Biblical and Reformed Guide to Sexuality for Young People(Wipf & Stock, 2017; paper & epub, 114 pp.).

You will find this summary of the book at the publisher’s site:

God’s good gift of sexuality has been corrupted since the fall of man into sin so that man in his depravity is not able to use it for God’s glory and for his own good. Sex between unmarried (fornication), adultery, including divorce and remarriage, and homosexuality are accepted as normal in modern society and young people, even Christian young people, are being influenced by this Satanic lie that “if…

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Unbreakable bond of Marriage



The Westminster Confession teaches that divorce is sanctioned for adultery and even desertion. By divorce it means the end of the marriage. hence it also allows for remarriage of the “innocent party”. It is manifestly wrong!

“Sexual unfaithfulness or desertion breaks the bond of marriage between two married persons (WCF). They usually think something like, If my spouse leaves me and goes for a new life with another, what connection, what bond has (s)he with me any longer? To this the answer of God in His Word is simpler than one may expect, Why do you think sexual unfaithfulness or desertion “breaks” the bond between two spouses? It simply doesn’t! This is so because, according to Scripture, there is only ONE thing that in God’s eyes breaks the bond between man and his wife, and that is death, physical death of one of the two. This is the perspicuous testimony of God in His Word (Rom. 7:2; I Cor. 7:39). Unfaithfulness, as serious and grievous as it may be, only violates, corrupts, adulterates the intimate bond God has created between husband and wife, but it does not, and can never, break it. Even less does desertion or anything else. Before God, who created that bond (Gen. 2; Matt. 19), a man and his wife are “one flesh,” and will remain such until the death of one the constituent parts of this “one flesh.” Just as in the true marriage between God and His bride, the church, her adulteries cannot and do not break their bond, so that the true elect church is rejected forever from the presence of the Lord (Eze. 16), God has conceived and made human marriage in such a way that when He does unite two in the bond of one flesh, He does so for life! And He calls them to see and believe this and live accordingly!(God does speak of divorcing Israel but in the next breath he still states he is married to her! (Jeremiah 3:8-14). This fits with divorce being a putting away from bed and board NOT the dissolving of the marriage bond!-JK)

God hates divorce. Matthew 19;9 is only teaching the ground for divorce NOT the ground for remarriage. We cannot, and should not, ground any belief in divorce and remarriage on Old Testament Mosaic law which was given to unbelieving hard-hearted Israel but rather what “I say to you” i.e. Christ’s teaching.


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Practical Christian Love

Christian love

Christian Marriage ought to be the prime example of Christian love.

I find so many writers don’t really define what love is. If we want to exhort people to love we need to clarify just how they do that. The qualities of it are all in I Corinthians chapter 13, but what I have grasped over the years are these characteristics:
1. Love is outgoing, away from self to others in all situations. It is looking not on one’s own things/concerns but that of others (Phil.2:3,4-vital in conversation and fellowship).
2. Love serves others and takes the lower station if need be to help practically. Like Paul gathered sticks in Malta, Christ washed disciples feet. It is sacrificial of time and energy and money. Christ so loved that he came down to the lowest depths (Phil.2:5-9).
3. Love wants the best for the other and wants to bless them. That may mean a rebuke but is often encouragement from Scripture or experience. It builds up/edifies.
4. Love aims at God’s glory not self-glory.
5. Love is lifelong.

I hope this is a help and practical.