War of Words (11)


War of Words Chapter 11

“First things First”

  1. This chapter is all about heart cleansing which underlies all we say. This is necessary so we can be used positively in the lives of others.

“ Ephesians 5:16 (and Col.4:5) Redeeming the time, Or “buying time”; it denotes a careful and diligent use of it, an improvement of it to the best advantage; and shows that it is valuable and precious, and is not to be trifled with, and squandered away, and be lost, as it may be; for it can neither be recalled nor prolonged: and taking it for an opportunity of doing good to ourselves or others, it signifies that no opportunity of discharging our duty to God and man, of attending on the word and ordinances of the Gospel, and to the private and public exercises of religion, of gaining advantage to our own souls, or of gaining the souls of others, and of doing good either to the bodies or souls of men, should be neglected; but even all risks should be run, and means used to enjoy it: and the reason the apostle gives for the redemption of time is,because the days are evil; as such are, in which iniquity abounds, and many wicked men live, and errors and heresies prevail, and are days of affliction or persecution;” John Gill

Similarly redeeming words buy them back from sin and bring blessing. In the case of Bob and Mary he needed to repent of his resentment against her and his hurtful words especially in front of the children. In his and most cases anger begets anger and James 1:20 states that the wrath of man does not work the righteousness of God.

  1. Stages in repentance: Consideration (of wrong done)

Confession (of sin/attitude)

Commitment (to change)

Change -it means putting off and putting on (Eph. 4:22-24)


  1. Wrong attitudes in relation to God/others which would negate any effort to help others:

Doubt, fear, anger (unrighteous), vengeance, self-righteousness, selfishness and hopelessness.

With Bob and Mary there needed to be soul-searching and heart preparation.

  1. Heart preparation (our attitude and putting on Christ) when confronting others:

Wisdom (pray!)

Mercy and judgment (like the cross)

Compassion (sympathy) and humility (we are all the same)

Kindness, gentleness, patience (impatience produces anger)

Forgiving (based on repentance)

Use the word of Christ

Forbearing (when provoked not to retaliate)

Love-willingness to sacrifice for the other, wanting their best.

Peace-inner rest and confidence in the power, rule and grace of Christ.

  1. We do this by the grace of God and the power of the Holy Spirit (Rom.8:13). We must never underestimate the power that is in us (II Peter 1:3)-we have the resources over and against our (and their) old totally depraved old man. We need to continually pray Ps. 139:23-24.


Next study (DV) Sat. Dec. 10th 8pm  Chapter 12  “Winning the War”




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